Preschoolers may insist on doing things for themselves, even when they don’t know how.
Preschoolers will test the rules and argue about rules they don’t agree with.
Preschoolers have great imaginations! They tell creative stories and may be afraid of the dark, animals, monsters, and more.
Preschoolers enjoy being in charge and telling others what to do.
Preschoolers watch you closely. Your actions teach them far more than your words.
Preschoolers want to please you.
Preschoolers need your love
Discipline for preschooler:
- Give your child lots of love.
- Try to have a regular routine to your day.
- Ask yourself: Is my child misbehaving or just trying to learn something?
- Act the way you want your child to act.
- Be specific and direct when you ask your child to do something.
- Spend time with your child; especially play time where your child gets to be in charge.
- Catch your child being good, and let your child know you noticed.
- Prepare your child for occasions that may be upsetting.
- When your child is having a difficult time, help your child take a break or a “time out.”
- Explain the rules and what will happen if the rules are broken.
Be consistent. Follow through with what you say.
Be realistic about what your child can do.
Parent TIP: Helping in the kitchen
Your preschool child is at a good age to start helping in the kitchen. Let your child help plan and fix meals. Preschoolers love to stir and mix things in a bowl. They can help clean and set the table (for example, place napkins and plastic cups on the table). Help your children learn to choose from a variety of healthy foods. They will learn a lot, and feel their choices are important.
Offer healthy and allowed choices: Anger and frustration are often a parent’s first response when a child refuses to do something. When you get angry, so will your child. First, ask yourself if it’s an important struggle. If it’s not, then let it go your child’s way. If it is important, walk away until your child calms down. Then, proceed with your request. If your child argues, walk away again. Make it clear that there is not a choice and you will have to give a consequence if your child doesn’t change the behavior. To avoid power struggles in the first place, offer your child a choice. At bath time, rather than ask, “Are you ready for your bath?,” say, “Its bath time. Do you want bubbles or plain water?”.
Be specific: Use simple words when you talk to your child. Be direct and specific about what you want done. Instead of saying, “Clean up this mess.,” say, “I want you to pick up your blocks and put them in the toy box.”.
source: university of minnesota