Everyday vocabulary for the kids

You can do hard things! 

Find out the real reason

Tookit for communication:

Mum towards the crying baby/child.

Why are you feeling upset (or any other way). Talk to me.

Then shut up and listen carefully.

Understanding your child’s feelings

When your child gets frustrated, angry, or sad, tell your child you understand. Say “I can see you’re upset.”. Sometimes that’s all it takes to make your child feel better or calmer. Acknowledging feelings doesn’t mean you are “giving in” or approving of the behavior. It helps identify the emotion.

Whining:Some children whine when they want something, others whine when they are tired, hungry, or stressed. Here are some things you can do:
When your child starts to complain and whine • because something is wanted that can’t be had, give a hug and say you understand the feelings of sadness or anger. Tell the child, “When you whine, no one wants to listen.”. Suggest or show ways of talking that will be taken more seriously. You may need to repeat this more than once. If the whining continues, stay calm and leave • the scene. It is important to not give in to whining, • pouting, tantrums, hitting, or other negative behaviors. If children get what they want when they behave this way, they will continue to behave negatively.

Bedtime Battles and Routines

Sleep problems

It is a learned behavior.

Most of our child behavior is learned, so is the sleeping routine. your child falls asleep in certain way because you have taught him to do so.

You may have allowed you child to fall asleep in front of the television or letting him come into your bed during the night. your child will have to un-learn his old ways of getting to sleep, and change it to new healthy ways, which are constructive for your child, yourself and the relationship with your partner. Children must re-learn new effective and easy way to get to sleep by himself.

 

If you are trying a new bedtime routine for the first time, you can expect it won’t work perfectly until the habits are firmly set.

Your child may keep coming out of the room. Be firm and gently lead your child back to bed. You may need to do this several times.
Most children go through a stage where they are  afraid of the dark. Understand that your child’s fear is real, provide comfort, and find ways to overcome it.
Use a night light or small lamp, or leave a light on in the hallway.
Some children need more time to fall asleep. Allow your child to look at a book, or talk to stuffed animals.
Your child needs to get comfortable enough to fall asleep. This may be different for every child. Try to find ways to help your child relax. Have your child breath slowly, sing a quiet song, or hold a stuffed animal.
Sometimes shortening the afternoon nap or making sure a child doesn’t nap in the late afternoon will help your child to be ready for sleep at bedtime.

source: university of minessota

Preschoolers (3-5 years) features

Preschoolers may insist on doing things for themselves, even when they don’t know how.
Preschoolers will test the rules and argue about rules they don’t agree with.
Preschoolers have great imaginations! They tell creative stories and may be afraid of the dark, animals, monsters, and more.
Preschoolers enjoy being in charge and telling others what to do.
Preschoolers watch you closely. Your actions teach them far more than your words.
Preschoolers want to please you.
Preschoolers need your love

Discipline for preschooler:

  • Give your child lots of love.
  • Try to have a regular routine to your day.
  • Ask yourself: Is my child misbehaving or just trying to learn something?
  • Act the way you want your child to act.
  • Be specific and direct when you ask your child to do something.
  • Spend time with your child; especially play time where your child gets to be in charge.
  • Catch your child being good, and let your child know you noticed.
  • Prepare your child for occasions that may be upsetting.
  • When your child is having a difficult time, help your child take a break or a “time out.”
  • Explain the rules and what will happen if the rules are broken.
    Be consistent. Follow through with what you say.
    Be realistic about what your child can do.

 

Parent TIP: Helping in the kitchen

Your preschool child is at a good age to start helping in the kitchen. Let your child help plan and fix meals. Preschoolers love to stir and mix things in a bowl. They can help clean and set the table (for example, place napkins and plastic cups on the table). Help your children learn to choose from a variety of healthy foods. They will learn a lot, and feel their choices are important.

Power Struggles

Offer healthy and allowed choices: Anger and frustration are often a parent’s first response when a child refuses to do something. When you get angry, so will your child. First, ask yourself if it’s an important struggle. If it’s not, then let it go your child’s way. If it is important, walk away until your child calms down. Then, proceed with your request. If your child argues, walk away again. Make it clear that there is not a choice and you will have to give a consequence if your child doesn’t change the behavior. To avoid power struggles in the first place, offer your child a choice. At bath time, rather than ask, “Are you ready for your bath?,” say, “Its bath time. Do you want bubbles or plain water?”.

Be specific: Use simple words when you talk to your child. Be direct and specific about what you want done. Instead of saying, “Clean up this mess.,” say,  “I want you to pick up your blocks and put them  in the toy box.”.

 

source: university of minnesota

Toddlers as cavemen :)

Toddlers, like cavemen, are often stubborn, opinionated beings who don’t say please and thank you, hate to wait in line, rub their runny noses on their sleeve (or yours), pee anywhere they want, grunt, spit and even bite when upset. It’s a comical image, but this revolutionary concept is no joke. It is absolutely central to understanding your child’s needs and your job as a parent.

 

“Happiest Toddler on the Block”- the book

Cum sa cladesti increderea in sine la copii mici

Scopul final in a cladi o incredere de sine sanatoasa este de a face copii sa se simta bine cu ei insisi si sa reuseasca sa se calmeze in situatii tensioante, reactiecare le faciliteaza succesul. Cum poti ajunge acolo? Iata cateva sfaturi practice despre ceea ce ai putea face alternativ in fiecare zi:

  1. Spune copilului tau cat de minunat este. Sunt mandra de tine pentru …. (specifici ce)
  2. Lasa copilul sa se simta mandru de el insusi , insasi. Lasa-l sa savureze propriile victorii, fiind alaturi de el, insa abtinandu-te sa trambitezi un BRAVO iesit din comun. Si copii au nevoie de spatiu pentru a se bucura de ei insisi.  Cel mult ii poti reflecta bucuria prin cuvinte.
  3. Spune-i copilul cum sa faca cee ce-si doreste si nu pune mana sa faci tu in locul lui…
  4.  …si spune-i ca o poate face: “You can do it honey, just put your head down and you have cross it!”
  5. Doctorii specializati in  psihologia copilului sustin ca a impune limite consecvente si clare in domeniile importante ale vietii copilului, are ca impact cresterea fericirii, sigurantei si a increderii in lume a copilului;
  6. Cladirea stimei de sine si a increderii in sine a copilului, se face alaturi de incurajari si sustinere, si prin a lasa copilul sa invete sa faca fata unor situatii dezamagitoare, frustrante si triste. Faci copilul sa inteleaga ca stii ca este dezamagit, insa trebuie continuata situatia si traversata cu bine. Invata astfel sa tolereze mai bine frustrarea;
  7. Gestioneaza si invata sa-si rezolve singuri problemele.
  8. Intelege cine este si cum este copilul tau. Impunem asupra copilul nostru imaginea copilului ideal, si impunem asteptari legate de ideal.

Tu ce metodeaplici sacresti increderea copilului tau?

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Copiii invata de la noi

“Copiii invata de la noi emotii precum mandria, sau rusinea si vina. Sta in puterea noastra sa decidem ceea ce vrem sa-l invatam si sa-i aratam copilului.” ParintiBuni

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Tandra ca in reclama Milka

Unul dintre cele mai importante lucruri pe care mi le-am propus cu bebelusul meu a fost sa il ingrijesc dupa cele mai inalte standarde. Adica fac treaba eficient si rapid, sa ii stabilesc un program care sa fie potrivit nevoilor copilului meu. M-am lasat condusa de ceea ce trebuia facut si  mai putin de a-i arata ESENTA.

Suntem  obosite, preocupate de educatie, ingrijirea copiilor nostri si poate ne scapa fix ceea ce este mai important,  blandetea si mangaierea. A iubi un copil, nu este identic cu a face in fiecare zi copilul sa simta ca este iubit fara masura, a-i arata asta explicit.

Reclama de la Milka, aduce in prim plan nevoia de a fi tandru unul cu celalat si primul pas sunt copii. Mi s-a parut geniala reclama, avand in vedere ca noi suntem aparent foarte prietenosi intre noi, insa ne iubim emotional si temperamental, in loc sa oferim iubire si tandrete liniara, pe care te poti baza mereu.

Arata-i iubirea ta chiar astazi!

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Copii au emotii inca de la cateva luni

Viata emotionala a bebelusilor

Ross Thomson, Prof. la universitatea din California

  • la 8 luni copii deja au emotii si le afiseaza (tristete, fericire, suparare)
  • parintii considera ca emotiile apar la copii,  abia la 2-3 ani
  • bebelusii au vitalitate emotionala
  • copii sunt numai emotii, de fapt!
  • copii care nu arata toata gama de emotii, e posibil sa fie afectati de viata emotioanala a parintilor
  • copii sunt temeramentali, in general
  • copii replica si copiaza comportamentul emotional al parintilor

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